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Are you in love with a person or a fantasy?

Jun 04, 2025
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If you’ve ever asked yourself “Is this my soulmate?” this new episode is for you. (By the way, there was no Energy Update newsletter on Sunday because we hosted the June Energy Update on YouTube. You'll see it back in your inbox next week!)

In Episode 3 of The Timing Effect, we’re talking about the difference between love that liberates… and love that locks you in a loop of longing.

We’ve both been there-chasing chemistry, holding onto hope, and grieving people we thought were “the one.” But what we were really grieving wasn’t the person. It was the fantasy.

This conversation is one of our most personal and revealing yet. It’s not just about relationships, it’s about the moment you realize that reality is more sacred than any dream.

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Here’s what you'll hear:

🌿 Why we confuse intensity with truth
🌿 What Matt calls “a monogamous relationship with fantasy” and how he broke the cycle
🌿 Joy’s story of grief, healing, and the unexpected wisdom that came after heartbreak
🌿 A powerful new definition of what a soulmate really is

And maybe the most important takeaway of all…

💛 That love doesn’t begin with perfection.
It begins with presence.

Lately, presence has looked like this for us:

Our coffee time isn’t just about caffeine,
it’s become a mini-celebration, a sacred pause,
or a moment to be in reality together.

No rushing, no fixing, just being.
It reminds us that connection doesn’t require fireworks…
just intention.

Thanks for being part of this with us. We’re so honored to walk this path with you.

With love and timing,
Matt & Joy

 

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